I’m Not Sure Who Needs to Hear This But…

I’m not sure who needs to hear this but going out drinking every weekend doesn’t correlate well with success. Watching Netflix for hours on end doesn’t align with the effort needed to attain your goal. To achieve a worthwhile goal takes endless hours of toil, dedication and sacrifice. Every time you decide to get shit-faced, you make a decision about your priorities. There’s nothing wrong with that but you cannot complain in 10 years time when you haven’t ‘made it’ if you spend your time wastefully. The only person that stopped you from achieving your goal was you.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this but pretending to be happy on social media isn’t going to make you happy. Spending hours cultivating your social media profiles to try and make people jealous of your life will not bring you long-lasting joy. Spending too much time on social media in general will not make you a happy person, it will make you bitter and superficial and obsessed with how things look rather than how things are. Your happiness can only begin from an internal source, from within yourself. It cannot be granted by follower lists and clout.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this but just because you believe something to be correct, doesn’t mean it is. If someone doesn’t hold the same values as you, it doesn’t make that person bad, or wrong. Having tolerance for people who hold different beliefs to you is the most important virtue to strive toward. Discounting people for differing opinions isn’t tolerant, nor virtuous, nor helpful. Your beliefs are as important as anyone else’s and that’s true for everyone else, too.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this but remember to drink water. Remember to exercise and to sleep and eat well. Remember to be open with your friends and tell them when you aren’t feeling well. Remember that each of us is the protagonist of our own lives and that most of the time, people won’t have the capacity to even notice there is something wrong because they’re so caught up in themselves. Remember that the road to getting better begins with you. And also remember to keep that in mind so you can be more mindful of your friends.

I wasn’t sure who else needed to hear these things, but I did. Sometimes hard truths are necessary for growth. Sometimes, the reason you get angry by what someone says is because you already know what they have said to be true. Sometimes, it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you. More often than not you get angry because of your own short-comings. It’s absolutely normal and fine to have flaws, we all have them. What isn’t fine is refusing to work on them. I’m not sure who needs to hear this but you can definitely do better than you’re doing right now.