Tough Decisions and Lessons in Identity Formation

This week I decided to stop playing basketball, at least for the time being. If you know me, you’ll know that I’ve played basketball since I was 11, and that it has formed part of my identity for most of my life, and for all of my adult life. If you don’t know me, then […]

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What’s the Cost of Being Happy?

I’m gonna keep this short. I’ll be honest and tell you that I’m hammering this out in the minutes before it’ll be posted. I didn’t give time to this week’s post at all, and that’s something I may have beaten myself up about in the past. I spent a few days away with some friends […]

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Personal Responsibility and Mental Health

I harp on about mental health so often that I think most people assume that my mental health is always good, but that’s not always the case. Maybe some even think I’m a hypocrite at times because I don’t always practice what I preach. Working on your mental health isn’t easy though, and even though […]

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This is Why You Feel Attacked

If you spend any time online then it’s fair to say you’ve been in this position at some stage. It usually goes like this: You’re scrolling through your feed and you see a tweet that highlights some negative aspect of human behaviour. Your subconscious brain attributes this tweet to you personally, as you sometimes behave […]

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Trying To Be Better

I give myself an awful hard time quite often. There is no one so specifically cruel to me than myself. I’m sure that’s true for everyone. In bouts of anxiety I’ll convince myself that many people hate me. In times in which I achieve goals and accomplish things, I’ll be the first one to tell […]

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Notes on Stagnating

I have a prominent and sometimes disruptive aversion to stagnating. (‘Stagnant’ is just an awful word in a linguistic sense too but that’s a whole other post.) Becoming stagnant has always been a fear in the back of my mind. It comes from submitting to the idea that if you’re not moving forward, you’re moving […]

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